The Sobriety Code

Sabrina Vallis
4 min readNov 25, 2023

WHAT ISN’T BEING SAID ABOUT BEING SOBER

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Is that it is easier than drinking.

Try telling that to someone who is drinking and sees, as I did, drinking as the only thing that eases the stress and strain of their life.

What if that very substance that you are imbibing on a daily basis is causing the problems in the first place?

I can hear you say, as I did, “You’re wrong — it’s my friend. It helps me relax. Everybody drinks, don’t they? How am I going to cope without it?”

From experience I can tell you where that leads: down a dark path to a dark place unlike anything you have ever experienced.

To nights of despair to days in hospital, again and wondering how you got there.

To cravings so insane that you feel you are going out of your mind.

To deep depression and despair that bodes no well.

To the long, very long and deep dark night of the soul.

If you are lucky enough to stop, there will be a reason. Either health, or wealth, or death and taxes. The price will always be there to pay — the boatman’s hand is always outstretched and be aware that Chiron beckons daily in the abyss of alcoholism.

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Sabrina Vallis
Sabrina Vallis

Written by Sabrina Vallis

Sobriety writer. NLP Master Practitioner and Nutritionist. Current research: Addiction and the Brain: Ways to Heal. Neuroscience helps us quit.

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